Everyone knows someone who is an energy vampire.
You're probably thinking what in the heck is an energy vampire?
Well, simply put, it is someone who sucks up all your positive energy and exchanges it with their own negative energy. Have you ever felt that veil placed on you?
Unfortunately there are people out there that enjoy putting out your flame, whether it's positive or negative. You feel completely exhausted by the mental task of trying to get rid of that nasty vibe they put on you. For example you might be stuck in a relationship who constantly wants appreciation from you, but gives you none in return. Or you might be doing your best to release a grudge on someone who tormented you all your life. This isn't easy and I have definitely had these debilitating experiences.
Getting that power to discharge these people from your life takes some work. It's not always pretty or unpleasant, but man it feels good to let it go.
First of all, it takes a little bit of soul searching to find out what is really bugging you. How are you understanding who you are? Who were the positive ones that supported you? Who were less positive? What is holding you back?
For me, thinking of these people really tugged on my heartstrings whether I needed to just create some boundaries or cut them right out.
I am guilty for letting people take away that positive glow and for exhausting me to the point where I didn't know my purpose. I am guilty for letting these people get in the way of my personal success and that even now, is SUPER difficult to admit.
SO because of this confession, I really needed to pull my socks up and put up some rather tall and thick walls. This could be also known as a form of self-care. You are doing this because you love yourself enough to free your soul from all those toxic people that hold you down.
To get to the point of letting go, I really had to find that love to send them to help figure out themselves and doing this meant the task of forgiveness. It doesn't always have to be a physical or verbal confrontation. You can meditate in your heart and soul that you are allowing this person to find self-love one day and that you forgive what they did. When you release that into the world, you release it from being chained to your heart. You can take some deep breathes and notice how beautiful it is to not hold on to that person and who you are without them.
As some of you do know, I meditate. Not as often as I should, but working on that. One of the biggest things I learned about meditation was visualizing that string that ties you and that toxic person together and as difficult as it is, cutting that string. That individual no longer controls what I do or how I think of myself as a person. This can be incredibly emotional and let it be. Its good to release it in whatever way you feel is comforting.
Now what you've been waiting for, how the heck do I feel after this?
Well, amazing and free. Even though this is only a small step towards what I am working on in myself, its still an accomplishment.
I no longer live in the dark space that person wanted me to live in. I am worth so much more than that toxic human and the way they treated me. I no longer seek their approval.
I deserve a life full of happiness. This could be an affirmation for you like it is for me.
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